Monday, November 15, 2010

Hard Lesson

Tonight my son learned a lesson. Mommy will stick to her guns, if needed. Unfortunately, tonight, it was.

I make a yummy cheesy tortilla soup and decided to make a batch of it on this cold wintry night. I already knew that it was something Nathan would not be a huge fan of, but I decided to press into him a bit.

I don't want to be a parent who forces my child to eat more than he needs to. I never want to force him to clear his plate or interfere with his ability to know when HE is hungry or full. HOWEVER. I also do not want to raise a child who eats about five things and refuses to even TRY anything outside of his comfort zone. Thus, the scene is set for this evening...

I decided that I would have Nathan try a TINY bite of the cheese soup and afterwards he could have some tortilla, cheese and a nectarine as the rest of his meal. He absolutely refused. So, after getting disrespectful, he sat on the steps while Fraser and I prayed and ate dinner. I asked him several times if he would like to join us. To put it simply...Nope.

So, my son is now going to bed without dinner. :-( I have to confess, that makes me a bit sad. I almost caved (aka gave in to his requests for other items to eat, cause "I hungry Mommy"). I told him dinner was still there for him, and, again, he refused.

I think this might count as one of those "parenthood is not always easy" times. I know that he will not starve and that he is well taken care of. But it still isn't fun to be the "bad guy". I choose to believe that this is a life lesson that my son will learn from and tomorrow will be a new day.

Does this make me hardcore? I dunno (and I'm not really But, for tonight, I will choose to believe that I am encouraging my child to broaden his horizons. I have also taught him that Mommy means business. No means no.

Maybe breakfast tomorrow will be a nice hearty bowl of oatmeal. :-)

Monday, November 1, 2010

Giving Thanks: Year 2

As some of you might remember, I did a month of "Giving Thanks" last November. I want to do it again this year. I need the reminder that there are so very many things in my life to be thankful for. So, I will do my best to keep posting them o here as a reminder of all that is good on my life.

Day 1: I am thankful for a good report from Fraser's heart doctor. Jehovah Rapha!!
Day 2: I am thankful for the right to vote.
Day 3: I am thankful for my husband's brilliant mind. His "knack" for all things tech is an unbelievable blessing to our family (especially when I haven't backed up my computer in over 2 months and he can keep me from having a panic attack that all will be lost!!). I love you, Fraser!! :-)
Day 4: I am thankful for a good report from Nathan's teachers/speech therapist (Parent conferences today). I cannot begin to express my appreciation for how much work they have put into my child and the vast improvements it has made in our lives. Praise God for teachers!!!
Day 5: I am thankful for the beauty of God's creation. What a glorious day here in Colorado!!!
Day 6: I am thankful for a husband who wants to spend time with our son. There is nothing more powerful in a boy's life than a Godly man to lead him and I am so grateful Fraser wants to do that. Nathan is in good hands. :-)
Day 7: I am thankful for a church family to worship with every week and a Pastor that is not afraid to talk about the "hard" issues.
Day 8: I am thankful for the power of the Holy Spirit, and the work He is doing in my heart right now.
Day 9: I am thankful for MOPS and the wonderful women I have met and befriended through that organization. Love you gals!!!
Day 10: I am thankful for my fabulous siblings!! My twin sister, Sarah; Carolyn; Rebekah Urbanek; and David Berg. Y'all make my life so much fun and I am so blessed by each of you.
Day 11: I am thankful for the sacrifices our military and their families have made. Without you, our country would not be the land of the free!! Thank you!!!
Day 12: I am thankful for friendships that have spanned over the years (some even DECADES, gulp!!). :-)
Day 13: I am thankful for my nieces and nephew. What a joy to have each of you in my life! Aunt Liz loves you!! :-)
Day 14: I am thankful for my wonderful son, Nathan. It is so fun to watch him grow up and he brings me such joy in my life. :-)
Day 15: I am thankful for a safe car to drive in the snow, rain, etc.
Day 16: I am thankful for sore muscles from great work-outs. :-)
Day 17: I am thankful for the blessings of food, clothing and shelter. Especially with winter just around the corner.
Day 18: I am thankful for the time I spent at Texas A&M. I met some amazing people there and I am proud to be an Aggie. Whoop!!
Day 19: I am thankful for fun times with friends. Thanks Kate Vogler for letting us join you and Molly on the train and at the Holiday Festival. Great times!! Can't wait to set up the tree. :-)
Day 20: I am thankful for my church ( Denver United Church) that organized a service project where we were able to distribute over 300 Thanksgiving Day meals for the impoverished in our city. What a privilege to teach my 4-year old about feeding the hungry, one of Jesus' final commands.
Day 21: I am thankful to have found a "lost" coat over at my Scottish Mummy's house. Been missing nearly a year, and I was about to give up.
Day 22: I am thankful for the (FREE) Public Library System and all the books and movies we have enjoyed through it.
Day 23: I am thankful for our numerous "modern conveniences" like dishwashers, ovens, washing machines/dryers. I was definitely born in the right century!!
Day 24: I am thankful for a God who answers prayers. Granted, they may not always be answered the way I hope, but He DOES answer them. How amazing to have a God who is near me and cares about EVERYTHING in my life.


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I am married to an amazing man, who is also the love of my life. We have three kids who constantly keep me on my toes! God has richly blessed me and I am grateful for all He does for me.